One Moment Please (Personality Development)
https://ramamohanraocheruku.blogspot.com/2021/05/one-moment-please.html
All of us experience - anger, sadness and disappointment. Mostly this stems from a feeling of threat, some form of inner pain, fear, anxiety, shame, hopelessness, powerlessness, or failure to achieve our goals etc. The other reason is our inability to be realistic in our expectations which makes all the difference between having such feelings of disappointment and sadness, and experiencing intense anger.
Developing more realistic expectations between what we really need and what we desire, and cultivating positive emotions is an antidote- that helps us to become more receptive and alert to positive experiences and less prone anger, sadness and disappointments!
- Arrogance
Arrogance is one of the most dangerous traits one can
possess. It overshadows all the positive traits we possess. The best substitute
for arrogance is humbleness. The higher we go or the more success we achieve in
life, the more humble we should become because our progress and achievements in
life is not solely due to our own efforts. It has direct or indirect
contributions and sacrifices from many others.
Help
When we help others, our life starts to
have meaning and purpose. Real joy comes not from material possessions but from
people. When we give our hearts in kindness and love, we get the riches of the
universe, and the greatest of these is happiness.
We rise by lifting others. So let's be the, encouraging understanding and a helping friend and a guide, one who can spread love, positivity, joy, smiles, laughter and spread kindness in other's lives!_
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01\06\2021
God brings us closer to exactly who we need, even if we don’t know it yet. But the day we meet the person who is meant to be special, we’d be able to spot them from a mile away, we’d recognize them in a crowded room because we finally understand the difference between someone who touches our hand and someone who touches our hearts and soul.*Look out for that special person: and if you have one in your life thank them now!
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_*Do not live life in fear when situations challenge us or even when
the memories pinch our heart,. Because we are stronger now, after all that has happened!*_
To
win a battle with the enemies, one takes with them soldiers who have courage
and not fear. Similarly, to win the battles in the journey of life, we need to
choose to travel with thoughts that have courage and not fear.
_*Reprogram your brain to deeply challenge the initial thoughts to process others words differently, to reduce your pain!*_
15\06\2021
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It’s
so easy to criticize others and so hard to give a single honest compliment.
It’s also so easy to see ourselves in a good light and to be keen to focus on
imperfections of other people. Remember, criticizing people is a complete
lose-lose situation. That only creates distance, spreads negative energies and
causes tensions.
Often
those that criticise others reveal what they themselves lack.
_*Negative
criticism is one of the worst kinds of negative thinking and talking which has
no rational benefits. Avoid it!*_
People spread rumors which are uncertain, Which often end up creating confusion,
discomfort, misunderstandings, and even
destroy lives, separate couples and friends, causing clashes, generating
hatred, rancor and resentment. If it's not our business let us refrain from
spreading it!
*Let us not invent things with
our small mind and spread it with our big mouth what we don’t ascertain it for
ourselves!*_
When you begin thinking about something that
stresses you, just shift your thought process to something more pleasant, like good times with friends, a holiday, or your passion for your hobby like
mellifluous music. Remember the thoughts you choose to focus on will determine
how you experience the moment and your life!! Hence don’t strain thinking about problems, on the other way round
think for solutions, before which you clean the screen of your mind. Over thinking
only results in Blood Pressure.
_*Replace your thoughts when you
are stressed to be happy!*_
Being patient, above all, means that you have not given up, ever. If
something doesn’t happen the way you want it to, you don’t abandon your goals.
It’s important to remember that patience is also being calm and confident.
*When you cultivate patience you will learn to observe, and think in
silence, pay attention to your surroundings, and develop the intuition that can
help you find the best moment to act. Patience is virtue.*_
In any relationship in our lives —
family, friendship, romantic, friendship, etc. — it's key for us to be humble,
patient, kind, and eager to listen. If we channel these good traits in all that
we do, we'll receive the same qualities back from others. Remember that
relationships are all about building each other up and supporting each other,
no matter what!!
We keep telling that we should forget the *Past*, live in
the *Present* and not worry about the *Future* But, what we don’t realise is
that the Present and the Future are not permanent in life, only the Past is.
The Future will become the Present in some time and the Present will become the
Past in no time, whereas the Past will remain the Past all the time.
To make our Past beautiful and worth looking back with
pride, we must make optimal use of our past mistakes and ensure a successful
and fulfilling present and future. Let us work on our Present and Future!
Sometimes in life we face challenges and difficulties that
may seem insurmountable. We need to learn to overcome
these obstacles which is important because an ability to
overcome obstacles allows us to move forward in life,
and not be held back by the challenges that we face.
Like the sunshine behind every dark cloud; there
is happiness behind the obstacles, which will come out
once the cloud rains. So when you see an obstacle, grab
your courage and work on it.
Sorry (18\08\21)
Whether we drop a brick accidentally
or intentionally on someone's toe, there is an injury caused.
Similarly, remember that we cause hurt to others by our habits
and, sometimes by our unintentional actions. Saying 'Sorry ' after this will
not reduce the other's pain. We have to work hard to identify and remove
the unintentional hurts we may be causing and never repeat them.
Listening
We have two ears and one mouth, which means, we should listen more than
we say. And, if you bring the two ears together, they form the shape of a
heart.So imagine ears as the extension of the heart. Learn how to listen more
and you will know how to love.
Just offering a listening ear and an understanding heart for
someone's suffering can be a big comfort and great gesture to reflect our
love!
Expertise
in making Relationships
We don't have to be a Life coach but should be able to know how to
add value to our relationship and, also when they need that extra support!
Don't keep your problems to yourself .If you don't talk about your
problems, you may find your pent-up tensions or feelings, burst out in a way
that is embarrassing or inappropriate.
You might also find that things may get worse if you don’t try to
get on top of them straight away.
It is important to find ways to express your feelings. Find the right person who you trust to talk to. This will help release built-up tensions and aid you in making better decisions.
The self-awareness of our own emotions, predispositions and assumptions can help
our ability to effectively communicate, deal with conflict, and empathise with others.
Learning how to utilise these skills is very useful because each of us have our own
internal values which may or may not align with our thoughts and feelings.
The ability to be aware of our emotions helps us respond appropriately to situations
instead of reacting impulsively and is also beneficial during a confrontational or a
difficult conversation! Be self-aware!
We live in a world where we have
unparalleled access to instant applause. Share a picture of a baby, an event,
an engagement, a wedding, or a dinner, or some crappy writing, or an
announcement and we’ll receive instant applause. But instant applause is not an
accomplishment and causes us to focus on the prize instead of the process.
Posting about something we haven’t actually accomplished gives us a delusional
sense of accomplishment. Most of us, are guilty of doing this.
Instead of trying to figure out how to get
audience attention, let’s focus on creating something worthy of their
attention, In the long run, the only viable strategy to build an audience for
our work is to be so good they can’t ignore us.
An important part of
living a happy and fulfilling life includes being part of a close-knit
relationships where you can share, help, and support the people you care about.
It also includes being kind to needy, and learning to replace envy and anger
with understanding and empathy.
While it’s important
to put yourself first sometimes, it’s even more important to help others
whenever you can. Becoming more generous and compassionate will have real
tangible benefits in your own life!
The most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly.
Self-analysis
and self-awareness: both are essential for
our growth and success. While Self-analysis requires reconsideration of who we
think we are; Self-awareness requires us to reassess where we came from and
where we are going. Remember, an unexamined life will not lead to happiness or
success!!
Self-assessment
and attempts at self-improvement are essential aspects of "the good life.”Self-evaluation
and assessment should be a major part of our lives because we can't IMPROVE
what we don't ASSESS!
Gratitude
It's always important to reflect on all of the blessings we have and
be grateful. And with good reason: Gratitude is something that we should be
able to express on any occasion—no matter how big or small. So don't reserve
these thoughtful messages for a particular day!
Gratitude allows us to be happy, so have an attitude of gratitude! And
remember to live a life full of humility, gratitude, intellectual curiosity, and
never stop learning.
Reconceliation
There’s nothing that drives home the unpredictability of life like a
sudden disturbance that stirs up a storm in our placid, happy little existence.
You will be challenged emotionally, physically, spiritually and
psychologically. Adjusting to something new with its set of challenges is not
easy for many of us. It requires us to tune our mind and acquire new tools and
resources.
Acknowledge and accept the
situation instead of fighting or resisting it. The transformation process
starts once the acceptance happens or even without it. Take the transformation
to your stride.
Build your inner strength, stop seeing yourself as a victim and do
not give up hope.
Many of us spoil a conversation and sometimes a relationship by speaking- especially when we are not sure of the accuracy of what we are about to say. Instead of highlighting our ignorance it is better to remain silent Because, giving an answer that is inaccurate will prove us wrong, while remaining silent will leave the participants in the discussion sceptic about our knowledge on the subject.
We should treat the ability to argue as a skill that needs to
be practised and developed. The aim of an argument, or of a discussion, should
not be victory but progress.
If we open our mouth and spout nonsense about what we don’t know, all doubt will be removed- people
won’t think we ’re stupid, they will know we are stupid. Remember not to spoil
an excellent dish by adding a bad sauce.
Family Tradition
Ever
since social media has come to rule, it is virtually ruling the lives of many
people. It has been redefining every action we have been doing all these years.
It tells us how and when we should drink water, how and when we should eat our
food, how we should pray, how we should control and cure our ailments,
including cancer. When we read all these things, we wonder whether everything
we have been doing all these years was wrong. I have seen people who have been
leading a relatively healthy life all along, suddenly changing their lifestyle
totally to live *"healthier and longer"* *by falling prey to the
WhatsApp wisdom.
*Everything
that is posted on social media is not gospel truth. Anyone can post any
nonsense and it will surely be reposted blindly by many without even knowing
its original source. Moreover, the life style we are following is a time tested
one and more than anything, we have been enjoying it. Why should we change it
just because someone said it's not right? Let's ponder before we change our
habits blindly.
Facebook
or WhatsApp wisdom
Ever since social media has come to rule, it is virtually ruling the
lives of many people. It has been redefining every action we have been doing
all these years. It tells us how and when we should drink water, how and when
we should eat our food, how we should pray, how we should control and cure our
ailments, including cancer. When we read all these things, we wonder whether
everything we have been doing all these years was wrong. I have seen people who
have been leading a relatively healthy life all along, suddenly changing their
lifestyle totally to live "healthier and longer" by falling prey to
the Facebook or WhatsApp wisdom.
Everything
that is posted on social media is not gospel truth. Anyone can post any
nonsense and it will surely be reposted blindly by many without even knowing its
original source. Moreover, the life style we are following is a time tested one
and more than anything, we have been enjoying it. Why should we change it just
because someone said it's not right? Let's ponder before we change our habits
blindly.
Cheruku
Rama Mohan Rao
If we want to know how others treat us
, the best starting place is to look at how we treat others.
And,
if we don’t like the way we're treated, there's only one course
of action--to change our own attitude and behavior, because we can't change
anyone else's.
Relationships function like a mirror--eventually that change will reflect back onto how we are treated.!Let us be grateful to these mirrors for revealing to us, what we are!
Leading a happy life
If someone did you wrong LET IT GO. They will ruin more of your life if you allow them to invade your mind. It is like a virus which will only affect the quality of your life in every other area. So the best revenge is always ‘MOVING ON’. Be brave enough to confront and let go. Those who still live amazing lives, when things don’t work out in their favor, they move on quickly and focus on the next opportunity waiting for them.
Don’t cheat on your future with your past. It’s over. Commit to your future and it will be a strong, healthy attitude. If you don’t let go of your past, your future will suffer. Understand this very important fact.
ignition
A car may have a full
tank of fuel, but without a spark it cannot start. Similarly, while you fuel your brain with ideas every day, ensure you have
the spark in your soul to start the day well.
There are quite a few
practices that can pull us out of the dark place and help us regain the spark -
that can make our life vibrant, exciting and also bring back the feeling of deep joy and gratitude. Find and
practice them!
The rain drops falling from the sky can never bounce back to the same height in the same state. However, it does reach the sky again as vapor and form clouds. Similarly, if you can't bounce back up in life after falling down, patiently transform yourself and become a different person to rise again!!
Success comes when you transform to bounce back from failure. The transformation enables you to confront the challenges you face and will support you in growing, learning more about yourself. It strengthens your resilience, and helps you move forward.
Happiness
Each minute of our life is
a lesson but most of us fail to read it. We need to learn our daily lessons by
seeing the people around. We all have the power to shape our day and our life.
So no matter what is happening in our lives we can make the decision to be
happy and enjoy every moment.
We are here in this world
for a short period of time. It is fast and has no replay, no rewind
button, so enjoy every moment as it
comes: Don’t hold for tomorrow as there
is no system for refund on unused life.
Contentment
Being a perfectionist you may feel
proud and it may make you ambitious, but nothing ever great comes from that. Perfection
actually doesn't exist. The more you try for it, it rises your stress, anxiety
and depression, may even lead to self-harm. All the efforts ultimately lead to
complications and make it messy and uncertain
leading to ambiguity. It’s up to us to make the best of what we have and find
happiness in it.
Remember happiness comes from embracing our imperfections, which allow us to lead an authentic, content life.
People become complacent due to tradition, laziness, lack of appreciation ,bad bosses, or bad pay and incentive structures. But if you’re willing to make changes and not settle for the status quo, you can find a better way to do whatever you do, and achieve a lot more — often in a lot less time.The lesson is, don’t settle for the status quo. Instead, try to “level up” at what you do.
There’s usually a better way to do things. See if you can find a tweak that’ll drastically improve your results. Acquire new skills, awareness , network and don’t be afraid to step outside your comfort zone.
Whenever we *speak with others*, we always have them in front of us, and not behind us. Similarly, whenever we *speak about others*, we should speak in front of them and not behind them. Most of us speak behind people in many glorious forms - of gossiping, dissing, trash talking etc. But while we do it we forget that being talked about us behind our back is never /./.fun!!
Speaking behind the back of someone—especially about their inferior qualities and bad behavior—can serve as a great distance. Instead of such talk, be the person who always tries to see the good in others; and be the one who employs*_ *COMPASSION instead of CRITICISM..
One
of the most powerful things you can say to someone else isn’t actually a word.
It’s
not
even a gesture. It’s simply: nothing. Your silence is one of the most powerful
tools at your disposal in silence, you consent to nothing, you offer nothing,
and you tip the scale of control in your direction.
If
you’ve found yourself in a heated conversation or a downright fight, and if
there’s no clear way out, you can create your own doorway and walk through it
by being silent. Remember that "No response, in fact, is actually a pretty
powerful response".
People only change if they want to change. We cannot
force someone to respect us or love us or to admit they were wrong or even to apologies.
Regardless, of whatever we do this change is just not going to happen.
Instead
of trying to change people, let’s make a realistic decision about where they
fit into our life based on who they are and be with it.
One of
the greatest gifts we can give another is kindness. If someone is in need, lend
a helping hand. Don't do it only for the people you like and respect--that's
easy--but sometimes you should also for the ones who drive you crazy and those
you don't even know.
True
kindness lies in the act of giving without the expectation of getting something
in return. Remember that giving is the best way of communicating!
The Ideal Guide
Some people come into our life for a REASON and it is usually to
meet a need we expressed. They come to assist us through a difficulty; to
provide us with guidance and support; to help us to be successful, to aid us
physically, emotionally or spiritually. They seem like a godsend,and they are;
and we need them to be there.
These people teach us lifetime lessons, and help build a solid
emotional foundation. Our job is to accept the lesson they teach , love the
person, and put what we have learned to use in all other relationships and
areas of our life!.
Advising
people how to swim won't make them a swimmer. But helping them practice
certainly will. Similarly, follow up on your advice to others with the coitment
to help them practice till they can perform.
Giving
advice is one part of helping ,its providing
the support that can make the difference between success and failure
which is important Try to promote the
realization of another person's dream!
Healthy Relationship
Body builders go to the gym daily because
without regular exercises, strong muscles become weak too. Similarly, nurture
your strong relationships regularly. It will not remain strong on it's own for
long without efforts.
A healthy relationship requires both parties to
put in the time, attention, and love required to strengthen the partnership.
Make an effort to work at your relationship every day, and you will be rewarded
with a deeper connection.
Obstacles
are the stumbling blocks that prevent you from reaching your goals. Life at times
becomes unbearable as unexpected setbacks and obstacles set in.These limiting
factors hinders you from achieving your desired dreams. Remember, it ’is not
enough to set goals; you need to realise your goals !
Every
success comes with challenges. These challenges often come as problems you need
to solve. If you can solve them, you can then have the assurance that you reach
your goals.
Short
and sharp words spoken by a loved one
pokes us
like a sharp iron nail, and we definitely
go
back and rub our skin. Not every short and
kind
word has i the effect, but every sharp one
does.
So make sure to taste your words, before
you
spit them out!
It is
always the best option to improve your words
instead
of raising a voice .Remember it is rain
that
grows flowers, not thunder.
Bluetooth does not work between an Apple device and an Android
device due to incompatibility. However, you can transfer files and messages
using a common platform like WhatsApp or Email. Similarly, when your brain does
not accept another's point of view or vice versa, try connecting through the
heart and soul which can work on a common platform.
Remember that rivals have
come together many times to work for a common cause .So look to your heart and
soul first, rather than looking to your head first, when you are accepting
others and their views !
A smile on the face is a magnet to attract
people
You need a reason to cry but don't need
any to smile. When you cry, people will ask why but when you smile, they
don't. When you cry, you have to cry
alone but when you smile, people will smile back at you. You are the only one
to decide whether you want to keep crying or keep smiling ?
You have the power to either enliven or
dampen the atmosphere around you.Make sure to carry your own.
A Sensitive and A Hard Worker
Both tears and sweat look similar;
they are liquid and salty. Their origin is different and their significance
too. They yield different results. While tears get sympathy, the other will get
success and satisfaction. Work on your character. It is not how you look, speak
or behave that produces the results, it is the commitment dedication and hard
work.
People love you and value for achievements and not being docile and emotional.
It is not on how good you look, it is success that elevates
your status. success is impossible without sweat, and those who cannot sweat , cannot change
anything or receive any rewards!.
Positive energy
Electrical wires transmit electricity that can kill us, but
electrical appliances convert the same electricity into energy that provide us
happiness. Similarly, instead of transmitting the negative energies that you
get, be a person who can transform those into positive energies to provide
happiness.
Taking yourself out of the emotionally-charged negative by
moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems
rationally and live in positivity. Always try turn to negative energy in
positive action.
Recognition and appreciation are two of the most essential ingredients in life. They keep us nourished mentally just as food keeps us nourished physically. While we all expect others to appreciate and recognise our work and action, we are very conservative in doing the same for others. We don't realise that just as we need them, others too need them.
Appreciation cost us nothing but carries a lot of value for others. Let's be more vocal in recognising and appreciating the good work of others.The more the more we do this, the more we will appreciate fundamental things like relationships, love, and understanding!
POWER BANK
While power banks charge phones, they don't get reverse charged by
the phone. They have to be connected to a better power source for that. Similarly
in life always connect to the higher and a better power to get energized
yourself instead of expecting energies back from those you give.
Being
with people better than you, people of excellent and exceptional talents and skills
you will be able to get many benefits, including the learning process that
never stops .Know that you are the average of people you spend the most time
with.
Calmness
Calmness is often underrated, or
overlooked entirely, but the ability to remain steady and focused under stress
is one of the most valuable qualities anyone of us can develop. Keeping calm is easier said than done during
tense and unpredictable times. However, it is in these sorts of situations that
it’s even more important to stay grounded and cultivate our inner peace.
Calmness
is a super balm against anxiety that fosters inner strength and self-confidence.
Keep in mind that inner peace is inspired by calmness.
Relationships
Relationships run much deeper
than the moments we spend with each other physically. Even though someone isn’t
right there with us at that particular moment, a part of them is still present
when we keep them in our mind. So missing someone is a part of loving them, so no
matter where we go, some people will always be in our heart.
Sometimes, when one person is
missing, the whole world seems depopulated. and if you are really missing him,
tell you miss him - just to remind that how much special he is to you.
Computer
Whenever the computer stops responding well, we close it by pressing
CTRL+ALT+DEL (Control + Alternate + Delete) in that sequence. Similarly,
whenever your brain stops responding well, first take Control of your emotions,
then evaluate Alternate solutions, finally Delete what is not appropriate.
To make your life meaningful you can use CTRL +ALT +DELETE as a
principle to restart the operating system of your life and to have a better
Heart-ware!
Do not lose spirit
The Diwali Diya keeps burning through the night since it has enough oil or else we refill it.Similarly, make sure your passion in life does not reduce and you continue refilling it with motivations to keep it burning! Motivation is one of the driving forces behind our behavior.
Motivation fuels competition, sparks social connection and encompasses the desire to continue striving towards a purpose, and make life worth living. Stay motivated.
My sincere request to all my dear senior citizens-Please bear the pain from your chronic ailments to the extent of your endurance. Indulge in deeds that keep you active and lively.
If we focus on life keenly we find it ‘the balancing act of
three things viz. choices, chances, and changes. The three ‘C’s of Life. Only when
you make a choice to take a chance, your life will change and when you adapt to
these three C’s it will help you to create a life that you don’t regret.
Life is the sum of our choices. The clarity to choose makes
us to wait for a chance, which will provide elevation in your status and that
is called Change. Hence remember always that C+C+C = Life.
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