GENERATION GAP
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It is a tough time both for parents and children to get mutually
tuned to the frequencies of each other.
The parents bitterly complain about ‘their children that they are
independent and impertinent regarding their behavior and thus they have gone
out of control and stopped relating to them. Almost all parents point their
finger at the young and see no fault of their own. Little do they realise that
the problem of relationship invariably emanates from parents, from their
clinging attachment and possessiveness towards the children.
In the absence of the intellect the constant emotional pressures
exerted by them virtually strangulate the young. The first step to straighten
relations is for the parents to realise their inherent weakness and make a
careful study of the psychological traits of their children.
Children are born with the capacity to absorb knowledge from the
external world. It is called udana (ఉదాన) in Sanskrit,
the power of grasping fresh knowledge which is optimum at birth. It diminishes
with age. And when a person reaches old age it practically disappears. That
explains why youngsters absorb ideas and ideologies, trends and fashions faster
while the elderly take much longer to do so. The disparity in time for such
absorption is being called as a generation gap. Hence the older generation
perceive the world differently from the young.
This disparity leads to argument and altercation, confrontation and
conflict between parents and their children. If only either one understands
that the other helplessly manifests his own nature then there would be greater
tolerance, understanding and harmony. But the problem people face everywhere is
the lack of such understanding on both sides which has strained or practically
destroyed parent-child relationship.
Children possess extraordinary energy whereas the elderly do not.
They are prone to becoming tired and they try to combat it with stimulants,
weekend breaks and vacations. The reason for this contrast is the absence of
worry and anxiety in children, while adults are plagued with worries of the
past and anxieties for the future.
In their desperation to exercise control over the children’s
tireless activities parents suffocate them with incessant restrictions. The
solution lies not in stifling them but in studying their natural tendencies and
giving direction to their energy. Hence adults need knowledge of higher values
of life and practice them. By living those values and educating the children,
parents can help children’s energies flow in the right direction instead of
stifling them.
This procedure is very similar to preventing road accidents. There
are two ways of avoiding accidents. One way, which is no way, is to reduce the
speed limit of vehicles to a ridiculously low level. The other, sensible way,
is to provide drivers with proper road sense by educating them with traffic
rules and regulations. So too, youngsters should be provided with value
education rather than being showered with dos and don’ts.
The general trend in the world is that parents fail to set examples
of right living but merely pester their children with ill-founded advices. To
set the relationship right they will have to live the life they wish their
young to follow and avoid giving them sermons. Therefore it is incumbent upon
parents to set the standards through right examples for their children to
follow. Only then can there be less conflict and there is a good possibility of
bridging the so-called generation gap.
Swasthi.
Anuradha Gadiyaram
Very
nice post
Recent
generation people facing this faces
పవని నాగేంద్ర ప్రసాద్
తరాల అంతరాల గురించి చక్కటి విశ్లేషణ చేసారు.. ప్రతి కుటుంబం లోనూ
ఉండే సున్నిత సమస్య ఇది..పరిణితి చెందిన అవగాహన తో ఇటువంటి సమస్యలను అధిగమించాలి..
Anuradha Gadiyaram
Thank-you
sir
Gowri Shanker
Very
good article. Generation and communication Gap..The parents should take class
to them as and when required about our tradition culture .Food for thought.
Nishanth Reddy
Really
nice sir!
Nittur Guruprasad
Very
knowledge giving post. Yes every home has this issue. Difficult to overcome.
Hope your article throw some light in easing. With regards
Chittaranjan Babu Lakshmi
Good
post for the present day parents.
Prathap Nyshadam
Everyone
thinks what is known to him is correct other is wrong. What we have seen may be
correct at that time for your circle only but not to others. The same you like
to make your children. But the changes that have sprung up in
between is not taken. The same conflict you have faced with your parents. We
must see the thing from the angle of the present generation not only from our
weak eyes and ears. Just use spectacles available in showroom. You don't find
your father model used latest hearing aid smallest invisible. We don't find old
odel. just you are adopting the adoption of modernity. Your thoughts are also
to be adopted. we don't ride cycle rickshaws of manual pulling or
pedaling. Life is adoption to the present world for smooth living happily
Janaki Sistla
A
bit exaggerated. Now elders also know more about the changing world and working
habits of youngsters. They know their children well. Only they r to allow the
children to be free with their ways but communicate their ways to parents
whenever they feel or ask for. Gap comes when parents r not properly educated
and r possessive. The children r everything for them at the old age. They want
them to be nearer and helpful. Here comes the gap. Present opportunities and
technical education takes the younger generation to far of places for work.
Working habits week ends, eating habits too change for them. They r busy active
and stressed with time elements and competitions.
Think
a bit today there is enough connectivity between parents and children with
technological gadgets. They talk more often and communicate. They r very happy
with each other, distance has been covered, they see each other and talk with
each other happily as the children gets time.
Old
order changes place to new. Old habits of affection and feeling continue with
understanding. Children know how and what to talk with their parents. Many of
us r fortunate with the intelligent affection children in faraway lands. Even
to come to India and stay with parents for some time is not difficult, as there
r enough fast travel facilities.
Realize
it is now a technological world of connectivity and communication. Affection
and feelings continue with proper understanding of each other. We r happier
with our children than when they were nearby.
Old
age is an advantage to counsel the children well. The children carry on our
traditions and culture in faraway place with good faith.
Have
a good day. U have expressed very well.
With
regards.
Nagabhushanam Goteti
Good
suggestions and advice
Subramanyam Juturu
The
human psychology place an important role between the elders and youngsters. The
ethics of elder generation is not acceptable to the present generation.
Development in science and technology is different in elders and the
youngsters. First the parents must set an example for the children to follow
them.
Subramanyam Juturu
It
is plays not place. Err occurred. Pl correct.
Nittur Guruprasad
Thanks
for all expressing your views. Learned and understand a lot
Murali Thotapalle Venkata
Because
of charge in the environment No surprise to see the sea change in future.
Abburi Nagabose
Children
should respect their parents. Parents should love their children and be
friendly and share their experiences in solving the issues. There should be
good understanding between them for heathy relations
Cheruku Ramamohanrao
Yes.
This is what I tried to emphasize.
