One Moment Please (Personality Development)
https://ramamohanraocheruku.blogspot.com/2021/05/one-moment-please.html
All of us experience - anger, sadness and disappointment. Mostly this stems from a feeling of threat, some form of inner pain, fear, anxiety, shame, hopelessness, powerlessness, or failure to achieve our goals etc. The other reason is our inability to be realistic in our expectations which makes all the difference between having such feelings of disappointment and sadness, and experiencing intense anger.
Developing more realistic expectations between what we really need and what we desire, and cultivating positive emotions is an antidote- that helps us to become more receptive and alert to positive experiences and less prone anger, sadness and disappointments!
- Arrogance
Arrogance is one of the most dangerous traits one can
possess. It overshadows all the positive traits we possess. The best substitute
for arrogance is humbleness. The higher we go or the more success we achieve in
life, the more humble we should become because our progress and achievements in
life is not solely due to our own efforts. It has direct or indirect
contributions and sacrifices from many others.
Help
When we help others, our life starts to
have meaning and purpose. Real joy comes not from material possessions but from
people. When we give our hearts in kindness and love, we get the riches of the
universe, and the greatest of these is happiness.
We rise by lifting others. So let's be the, encouraging understanding and a helping friend and a guide, one who can spread love, positivity, joy, smiles, laughter and spread kindness in other's lives!_
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01\06\2021
God brings us closer to exactly who we need, even if we don’t know it yet. But the day we meet the person who is meant to be special, we’d be able to spot them from a mile away, we’d recognize them in a crowded room because we finally understand the difference between someone who touches our hand and someone who touches our hearts and soul.*Look out for that special person: and if you have one in your life thank them now!
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_*Do not live life in fear when situations challenge us or even when
the memories pinch our heart,. Because we are stronger now, after all that has happened!*_
To
win a battle with the enemies, one takes with them soldiers who have courage
and not fear. Similarly, to win the battles in the journey of life, we need to
choose to travel with thoughts that have courage and not fear.
_*Reprogram your brain to deeply challenge the initial thoughts to process others words differently, to reduce your pain!*_
15\06\2021
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It’s
so easy to criticize others and so hard to give a single honest compliment.
It’s also so easy to see ourselves in a good light and to be keen to focus on
imperfections of other people. Remember, criticizing people is a complete
lose-lose situation. That only creates distance, spreads negative energies and
causes tensions.
Often
those that criticise others reveal what they themselves lack.
_*Negative
criticism is one of the worst kinds of negative thinking and talking which has
no rational benefits. Avoid it!*_
People spread rumors which are uncertain, Which often end up creating confusion,
discomfort, misunderstandings, and even
destroy lives, separate couples and friends, causing clashes, generating
hatred, rancor and resentment. If it's not our business let us refrain from
spreading it!
*Let us not invent things with
our small mind and spread it with our big mouth what we don’t ascertain it for
ourselves!*_
When you begin thinking about something that
stresses you, just shift your thought process to something more pleasant, like good times with friends, a holiday, or your passion for your hobby like
mellifluous music. Remember the thoughts you choose to focus on will determine
how you experience the moment and your life!! Hence don’t strain thinking about problems, on the other way round
think for solutions, before which you clean the screen of your mind. Over thinking
only results in Blood Pressure.
_*Replace your thoughts when you
are stressed to be happy!*_
Being patient, above all, means that you have not given up, ever. If
something doesn’t happen the way you want it to, you don’t abandon your goals.
It’s important to remember that patience is also being calm and confident.
*When you cultivate patience you will learn to observe, and think in
silence, pay attention to your surroundings, and develop the intuition that can
help you find the best moment to act. Patience is virtue.*_
In any relationship in our lives —
family, friendship, romantic, friendship, etc. — it's key for us to be humble,
patient, kind, and eager to listen. If we channel these good traits in all that
we do, we'll receive the same qualities back from others. Remember that
relationships are all about building each other up and supporting each other,
no matter what!!
We keep telling that we should forget the *Past*, live in
the *Present* and not worry about the *Future* But, what we don’t realise is
that the Present and the Future are not permanent in life, only the Past is.
The Future will become the Present in some time and the Present will become the
Past in no time, whereas the Past will remain the Past all the time.
To make our Past beautiful and worth looking back with
pride, we must make optimal use of our past mistakes and ensure a successful
and fulfilling present and future. Let us work on our Present and Future!
Sometimes in life we face challenges and difficulties that
may seem insurmountable. We need to learn to overcome
these obstacles which is important because an ability to
overcome obstacles allows us to move forward in life,
and not be held back by the challenges that we face.
Like the sunshine behind every dark cloud; there
is happiness behind the obstacles, which will come out
once the cloud rains. So when you see an obstacle, grab
your courage and work on it.
Sorry (18\08\21)
Whether we drop a brick accidentally
or intentionally on someone's toe, there is an injury caused.
Similarly, remember that we cause hurt to others by our habits
and, sometimes by our unintentional actions. Saying 'Sorry ' after this will
not reduce the other's pain. We have to work hard to identify and remove
the unintentional hurts we may be causing and never repeat them.
Listening
We have two ears and one mouth, which means, we should listen more than
we say. And, if you bring the two ears together, they form the shape of a
heart.So imagine ears as the extension of the heart. Learn how to listen more
and you will know how to love.
Just offering a listening ear and an understanding heart for
someone's suffering can be a big comfort and great gesture to reflect our
love!
Expertise
in making Relationships
We don't have to be a Life coach but should be able to know how to
add value to our relationship and, also when they need that extra support!
Don't keep your problems to yourself .If you don't talk about your
problems, you may find your pent-up tensions or feelings, burst out in a way
that is embarrassing or inappropriate.
You might also find that things may get worse if you don’t try to
get on top of them straight away.
It is important to find ways to express your feelings. Find the right person who you trust to talk to. This will help release built-up tensions and aid you in making better decisions.
The self-awareness of our own emotions, predispositions and assumptions can help
our ability to effectively communicate, deal with conflict, and empathise with others.
Learning how to utilise these skills is very useful because each of us have our own
internal values which may or may not align with our thoughts and feelings.
The ability to be aware of our emotions helps us respond appropriately to situations
instead of reacting impulsively and is also beneficial during a confrontational or a
difficult conversation! Be self-aware!
We live in a world where we have
unparalleled access to instant applause. Share a picture of a baby, an event,
an engagement, a wedding, or a dinner, or some crappy writing, or an
announcement and we’ll receive instant applause. But instant applause is not an
accomplishment and causes us to focus on the prize instead of the process.
Posting about something we haven’t actually accomplished gives us a delusional
sense of accomplishment. Most of us, are guilty of doing this.
Instead of trying to figure out how to get
audience attention, let’s focus on creating something worthy of their
attention, In the long run, the only viable strategy to build an audience for
our work is to be so good they can’t ignore us.
An important part of
living a happy and fulfilling life includes being part of a close-knit
relationships where you can share, help, and support the people you care about.
It also includes being kind to needy, and learning to replace envy and anger
with understanding and empathy.
While it’s important
to put yourself first sometimes, it’s even more important to help others
whenever you can. Becoming more generous and compassionate will have real
tangible benefits in your own life!
The most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly.
Self-analysis
and self-awareness: both are essential for
our growth and success. While Self-analysis requires reconsideration of who we
think we are; Self-awareness requires us to reassess where we came from and
where we are going. Remember, an unexamined life will not lead to happiness or
success!!
Self-assessment
and attempts at self-improvement are essential aspects of "the good life.”Self-evaluation
and assessment should be a major part of our lives because we can't IMPROVE
what we don't ASSESS!
Gratitude
It's always important to reflect on all of the blessings we have and
be grateful. And with good reason: Gratitude is something that we should be
able to express on any occasion—no matter how big or small. So don't reserve
these thoughtful messages for a particular day!
Gratitude allows us to be happy, so have an attitude of gratitude! And
remember to live a life full of humility, gratitude, intellectual curiosity, and
never stop learning.
Reconceliation
There’s nothing that drives home the unpredictability of life like a
sudden disturbance that stirs up a storm in our placid, happy little existence.
You will be challenged emotionally, physically, spiritually and
psychologically. Adjusting to something new with its set of challenges is not
easy for many of us. It requires us to tune our mind and acquire new tools and
resources.
Acknowledge and accept the
situation instead of fighting or resisting it. The transformation process
starts once the acceptance happens or even without it. Take the transformation
to your stride.
Build your inner strength, stop seeing yourself as a victim and do
not give up hope.
Many of us spoil a conversation and sometimes a relationship by speaking- especially when we are not sure of the accuracy of what we are about to say. Instead of highlighting our ignorance it is better to remain silent Because, giving an answer that is inaccurate will prove us wrong, while remaining silent will leave the participants in the discussion sceptic about our knowledge on the subject.
We should treat the ability to argue as a skill that needs to
be practised and developed. The aim of an argument, or of a discussion, should
not be victory but progress.
If we open our mouth and spout nonsense about what we don’t know, all doubt will be removed- people
won’t think we ’re stupid, they will know we are stupid. Remember not to spoil
an excellent dish by adding a bad sauce.
Family Tradition
Ever
since social media has come to rule, it is virtually ruling the lives of many
people. It has been redefining every action we have been doing all these years.
It tells us how and when we should drink water, how and when we should eat our
food, how we should pray, how we should control and cure our ailments,
including cancer. When we read all these things, we wonder whether everything
we have been doing all these years was wrong. I have seen people who have been
leading a relatively healthy life all along, suddenly changing their lifestyle
totally to live *"healthier and longer"* *by falling prey to the
WhatsApp wisdom.
*Everything
that is posted on social media is not gospel truth. Anyone can post any
nonsense and it will surely be reposted blindly by many without even knowing
its original source. Moreover, the life style we are following is a time tested
one and more than anything, we have been enjoying it. Why should we change it
just because someone said it's not right? Let's ponder before we change our
habits blindly.
Facebook
or WhatsApp wisdom
Ever since social media has come to rule, it is virtually ruling the
lives of many people. It has been redefining every action we have been doing
all these years. It tells us how and when we should drink water, how and when
we should eat our food, how we should pray, how we should control and cure our
ailments, including cancer. When we read all these things, we wonder whether
everything we have been doing all these years was wrong. I have seen people who
have been leading a relatively healthy life all along, suddenly changing their
lifestyle totally to live "healthier and longer" by falling prey to
the Facebook or WhatsApp wisdom.
Everything
that is posted on social media is not gospel truth. Anyone can post any
nonsense and it will surely be reposted blindly by many without even knowing its
original source. Moreover, the life style we are following is a time tested one
and more than anything, we have been enjoying it. Why should we change it just
because someone said it's not right? Let's ponder before we change our habits
blindly.
Cheruku
Rama Mohan Rao
If we want to know how others treat us
, the best starting place is to look at how we treat others.
And,
if we don’t like the way we're treated, there's only one course
of action--to change our own attitude and behavior, because we can't change
anyone else's.
Relationships function like a mirror--eventually that change will reflect back onto how we are treated.!Let us be grateful to these mirrors for revealing to us, what we are!
Leading a happy life
If someone did you wrong LET IT GO. They will ruin more of your life if you allow them to invade your mind. It is like a virus which will only affect the quality of your life in every other area. So the best revenge is always ‘MOVING ON’. Be brave enough to confront and let go. Those who still live amazing lives, when things don’t work out in their favor, they move on quickly and focus on the next opportunity waiting for them.
Don’t cheat on your future with your past. It’s over. Commit to your future and it will be a strong, healthy attitude. If you don’t let go of your past, your future will suffer. Understand this very important fact.
ignition
A car may have a full
tank of fuel, but without a spark it cannot start. Similarly, while you fuel your brain with ideas every day, ensure you have
the spark in your soul to start the day well.
There are quite a few
practices that can pull us out of the dark place and help us regain the spark -
that can make our life vibrant, exciting and also bring back the feeling of deep joy and gratitude. Find and
practice them!
The rain drops falling from the sky can never bounce back to the same height in the same state. However, it does reach the sky again as vapor and form clouds. Similarly, if you can't bounce back up in life after falling down, patiently transform yourself and become a different person to rise again!!
Success comes when you transform to bounce back from failure. The transformation enables you to confront the challenges you face and will support you in growing, learning more about yourself. It strengthens your resilience, and helps you move forward.
