FOUR WHEELER (Life is a Vehicle)

FOUR WHEELER (Life is a Vehicle)
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Life is a vehicle. May be two wheeler, three wheeler or four wheeler, but hard to be a mono wheeler. Mono wheelers are the Saints and Rishis who live for others by word and deed and whom we cannot find so easily. Let us first accept that we are ordinary people with many things in common. Even among us we may see some experts playing some feats who can be categorised as circus artists who work for money. Our crafty Babas of whatever religion with a sobriquet attached to them perform certain uncommon things in the guise of miracles. Even in this ordinary life, God, the ring master, certain times make us do feats without any preliminary experience even. Of course we are puppets in his hands.

Let us come back to life. I said life is a vehicle. May be two wheeler. If that is so its spread on the ground is less and is therefore more prone to fall down. The three wheeler will have balancing problem. It is much subjected to down fall in case of crisis. If crisis occurs it runs to climax. Therefore for a home led by the driver that is the head of the house, life is a vehicle. His ambition is a four wheeler though he starts with two wheeler. For an individual having family, the four wheeler is a car. The make model and brand depend on his abilities and capabilities.

However great the car is in every respect it should have the four wheels and the wheels with full of air. Air gives the car the stress, the tension, the resistance, but if it is not there, tyres become flat and the car halts or may be succumbed to a threat or accident. If the air is above adequacy the tire will get busted and it causes many a damage to the extent of it being even fatal. Hence the air is to be limited to the extent needed. That gives pressure to the vehicle to act on the path or the road to reach your destination. Destination is fulfilment of life ambition may be devotional or mundane, in this case.

Initially consider the four wheels as you your wife, your father and mother. Even when you get your children they will be under your care only and hence the wheels remain as they are. As the time changes you will replace the worn out wheels that is father and mother whose time is out, by yourself and your wife and your children will be the new set of wheels, I mean they are comprised of rims and tyres.

So now let us come back to the air. We have realised that stress given by air is must for the vehicle. But the air should have a check, otherwise you would not be aware of what is happening and what happens. This stress is of four kinds if you keenly observe. 1. Personal 2. Family 3. Professional 4. Social.

Let us discuss one by one. The personal stress may come from your sickness, from all the fatigue that you bring from the office, may be by some incident on the way back home. When you give more importance to your stress it dominates you and you will lose control on your mind and for a man with imbalance of mind anything may happen before he reaches home. If the tyre is punctured, it becomes flat and the car will have more friction and cannot run. So to maintain the stress steady, the medicine you need is laughter, and  its generator is called humor. This is a boon given to you by God. Make use of it as much as possible. That enhances or enriches your absorbing capacity. It always remains inversely proportional to stress. It enables the mind to be lighter and also enthuses it to think of solutions than harping on problems. I tell a small story. There was a big deluge in a forest and a person who doesn't know swimming was caught in it. Suddenly he found himself preceding a lion floating in the water. He caught the lion's tail and reached the shore. The moment he realised he is reaching the shore he could catch hold of the trunk of a small tree and saved himself the lion swam for some more distance and could go into forest. Here the point is holding the tail of a lion. Even if we presume that the lion knows that somebody is holding the tail, in such a big flow of water, lion cannot turn to catch the man. Hence both were safe. Here, for the man, though it is a threat, the presence of mind led him to the shore. That comes to you when you do not go on adding weight to the problem and on the contrary you take it light and start thinking of a solution. That is how you can keep the tyre intact. For this stability of mind you need one thing that I shall let you know afterwards.

Now let us come to the second one. While family aberrations are to be covert, your sickness is to be overt. What I mean is the family inconsistencies should never go outside. It diminishes the image of the entire family. Similarly a person who is ill should disclose to his friends and neighbors so that he may get a proper advice as to whom he should approach for the treatment. In the family front your spouse is the best person to share, provided you are in harmony with her. Of course it is reciprocal. Once you release your steam to another object you feel relaxed. Suppose there is very hot water in the vessel, and you want to empty the vessel without spoiling the ground. You take a towel and dip it in the vessel. The water will be suck and the heat reaches to room temperature. The cloth is your wife and the hot water is your stress. Don't overburden your mind by the problem devote it for the solution. Wife is the best friend philosopher and guide. Maintain excellent chemistry with her. She will lead the home front including your father and mother. When a problem occurs deal it with the member concerned separately and not collectively.

There is a sloka in Sanskrit.

Jaya duHkham jara duHkham

Janma duHkham punaH punaH

Samsaara saagaram duHkham

Tasmaat jaagrata jaagrata

So we are entering into this ocean knowingly. So you know you will be entangled in Samsara. Develop coolness. Never be over reactive when you get complaints, deal with every individual of the family separately. Control your emotions. For this also I shall let you know the remedy at the end.

Now we come to the third one that is professional. It comes to you through your higher-ups in the office, from your own colleagues, from the work pressure etc.

Here the rule that you must consider is 'Take things to your stride.' Here I tell my real experience. My boss with all the stress he received from his boss came back to his chamber called me inside and started delivering all the steam. I went on coolly listening to him and at the end I said good night and went home. The next day, as usual I went to office an hour before, and fifteen minutes later the boss came and called me inside. With all frustration, he questioned me 'Why brother you din't respond to my feelings yesterday evening and extend your helping hand'. I told 'Yes sir. I admit you told about your grief but nowhere did you mention me to accomplish the task. Had you had that faith you would have certainly taken my name'. As my Boss was too good a person and hence he immediately accepted his mistake and wanted me to accomplish it. Here is the twist. Because I know the psychology of my Boss I prepared a plan to execute to fulfil the desire of my Boss, as I was aware that he would ask me the next day about my opinion. He offered the task and I could finish it off ahead of the other Bosses of his cadre. This was a live incident that had happened. What I wanted to convey in this regard is that we should be of proactive nature. When you expect a threat be ready with a solution also. Don't overburden your mind by the problem devote it for the solution. Be proactive is the suggestion. Let us see its remedy at the end.

Here is the fourth one that is social stress. Your friends, neighbors, relatives, colleagues etc. All said and done you are in a society. You should have reciprocity, kinship and the frequency between them and you should have a fine tuning otherwise you cannot survive peacefully. It mostly runs by 'give and take policy'. Honesty and sincerity are the two tools that should always be with you. In this case you get the stress by their problems or their problems to which you are made a party. Any way you have to sharpen your thinking to find a solution but if you become panicky and run away from the problem the followers leave you and that will be another problem to you. So have clarity of mind, have a clear judgment of whom you are allowing closure to you, own their problem and try honestly to find a solution. In this case also if the stress becomes more the tyre will puncture. So how to overcome this. Yes there is a solution. We will start discussing about it now.

Suppose you run to catch a bus. You have an aim and you are running a race. But you are running alone. There is one more who can run with you if you surrender to him and beg. He is none other than God. When the God is with you, your RACE transforms into GRACE. So now you have realised the destination. What are the points to ponder there for? Your dedication, your devotion, your concern, commitment and concentration will certainly equip you with the necessary ability and stability to realise him. Once he is installed in your mind and heart he will instill all that is required for you to confront any situation without losing any cool. That comes by ‘Samadhi Sthiti’ and actually Samadhi means some death-like situation and not death. We mistake it to be burying a dead body also. But it is not so. The word Samadhi literally means Sama and Dhi. Sama means equanimous and Dhi means the buddhi or intellect. If you reach that kind of equanimous (Strong and Selfposessed) state of intellect, it is known as Samadhi. It requires rigorous practice. That you will attain after a long long practice.  But initially if you start practicing your emotion will start getting curtailed. That is, of the eight limbs of Samadhi (yama, niyama, asana, pranayama, pratyahara, dharana, dhyana, and samadhi)  you are practising Savikalpa Samadhi(According to Paramahansa Yogananda, in this state one lets go of the ego and becomes aware of Spirit beyond creation. The soul is then able to absorb the fire of Spirit-Wisdom that "roasts" or destroys the seeds of body-bound inclinations.) and that is enough to throw away all the dirt of stress and strain from your mind. You will become cool, undeterred by any external pressures and that will enable you to solve all your problems. ‘He’ has the fuel and mechanism in his hands. Your surrender will enable you to drive the car smoothly.

Swasti.