FOUR WHEELER (Life is a Vehicle)
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Life is a vehicle. May be two
wheeler, three wheeler or four wheeler, but hard to be a mono wheeler. Mono
wheelers are the Saints and Rishis who live for others by word and deed and
whom we cannot find so easily. Let us first accept that we are ordinary people
with many things in common. Even among us we may see some experts playing some
feats who can be categorised as circus artists who work for money. Our crafty
Babas of whatever religion with a sobriquet attached to them perform certain uncommon things in the guise of miracles. Even in this
ordinary life, God, the ring master, certain times make us do feats without any
preliminary experience even. Of course we are puppets in his hands.
Let us come back to life. I
said life is a vehicle. May be two wheeler. If that is so its spread on the
ground is less and is therefore more prone to fall down. The three wheeler will
have balancing problem. It is much subjected to down fall in case of crisis. If
crisis occurs it runs to climax. Therefore for a home led by the driver that is
the head of the house, life is a vehicle. His ambition is a four wheeler though
he starts with two wheeler. For an individual having family, the four wheeler
is a car. The make model and brand depend on his abilities and capabilities.
However great the car is in
every respect it should have the four wheels and the wheels with full of air.
Air gives the car the stress, the tension, the resistance, but if it is not
there, tyres become flat and the car halts or may be succumbed to a threat or accident. If the air is above adequacy the
tire will get busted and it causes many a damage to the extent of it being even
fatal. Hence the air is to be limited to the extent needed. That gives pressure
to the vehicle to act on the path or the road to reach your destination.
Destination is fulfilment of life ambition may be devotional or mundane, in
this case.
Initially consider the four
wheels as you your wife, your father and mother. Even when you get your
children they will be under your care only and hence the wheels remain as they
are. As the time changes you will replace the worn out wheels that is father
and mother whose time is out, by yourself and your wife and your children will
be the new set of wheels, I mean they are comprised of rims and tyres.
So now let us come back to the
air. We have realised that stress given by air is must for the vehicle. But the
air should have a check, otherwise you would not be aware of what is happening
and what happens. This stress is of four kinds if you keenly observe. 1.
Personal 2. Family 3. Professional 4. Social.
Let us discuss one by one. The
personal stress may come from your sickness, from all the fatigue that you
bring from the office, may be by some incident on the way back home. When you
give more importance to your stress it dominates you and you will lose control
on your mind and for a man with imbalance of mind anything may happen before he
reaches home. If the tyre is punctured, it becomes flat and the car will have
more friction and cannot run. So to maintain the stress steady, the medicine you
need is laughter, and its generator is called humor. This is a boon given to
you by God. Make use of it as much as possible. That enhances or enriches your absorbing capacity. It always remains inversely proportional to stress. It
enables the mind to be lighter and also enthuses it to think of solutions than
harping on problems. I tell a small story. There was a big deluge in a forest
and a person who doesn't know swimming was caught in it. Suddenly he found
himself preceding a lion floating in the water. He caught the lion's tail and
reached the shore. The moment he realised he is reaching the shore he could
catch hold of the trunk of a small tree and saved himself the lion swam for
some more distance and could go into forest. Here the point is holding the tail
of a lion. Even if we presume that the lion knows that somebody is holding the
tail, in such a big flow of water, lion cannot turn to catch the man. Hence
both were safe. Here, for the man, though it is a threat, the presence of mind
led him to the shore. That comes to you when you do not go on adding weight to
the problem and on the contrary you take it light and start thinking of a
solution. That is how you can keep the tyre intact. For this stability of mind
you need one thing that I shall let you know afterwards.
Now let us come to the second
one. While family aberrations are to be covert, your sickness is to be overt. What I
mean is the family inconsistencies should never go outside. It diminishes the
image of the entire family. Similarly a person who is ill should disclose to
his friends and neighbors so that he may get a proper advice as to whom he
should approach for the treatment. In the family front your spouse is the best
person to share, provided you are in harmony with her. Of course it is
reciprocal. Once you release your steam to another object you feel relaxed.
Suppose there is very hot water in the vessel, and you want to empty the vessel
without spoiling the ground. You take a towel and dip it in the vessel. The
water will be suck and the heat reaches to room temperature. The cloth is your
wife and the hot water is your stress. Don't overburden your mind by the
problem devote it for the solution. Wife is the best friend philosopher and
guide. Maintain excellent chemistry with her. She will lead the home front
including your father and mother. When a problem occurs deal it with the member
concerned separately and not collectively.
There is a sloka in Sanskrit.
Jaya duHkham jara duHkham
Janma duHkham punaH punaH
Samsaara saagaram duHkham
Tasmaat jaagrata jaagrata
So we are entering into this
ocean knowingly. So you know you will be entangled in Samsara. Develop
coolness. Never be over reactive when you get complaints, deal with every
individual of the family separately. Control your emotions. For this also I
shall let you know the remedy at the end.
Now we come to the third one
that is professional. It comes to you through your higher-ups in the office,
from your own colleagues, from the work pressure etc.
Here the rule that you must
consider is 'Take things to your stride.' Here I tell my real experience. My
boss with all the stress he received from his boss came back to his chamber
called me inside and started delivering all the steam. I went on coolly
listening to him and at the end I said good night and went home. The next day, as usual I
went to office an hour before, and fifteen minutes later the boss came and
called me inside. With all frustration, he questioned me 'Why brother you din't
respond to my feelings yesterday evening and extend your helping hand'. I told 'Yes sir. I admit you told about your
grief but nowhere did you mention me to accomplish the task. Had you had that
faith you would have certainly taken my name'. As my Boss was too good a person
and hence he immediately accepted his mistake and wanted me to accomplish it.
Here is the twist. Because I know the psychology of my Boss I prepared a plan
to execute to fulfil the desire of my Boss, as I was aware that he would ask me
the next day about my opinion. He offered the task and I could finish it off
ahead of the other Bosses of his cadre. This was a live incident that had
happened. What I wanted to convey in this regard is that we should be of
proactive nature. When you expect a threat be ready with a solution also. Don't
overburden your mind by the problem devote it for the solution. Be proactive is
the suggestion. Let us see its remedy at the end.
Here is the fourth one that is
social stress. Your friends, neighbors, relatives, colleagues etc. All said and
done you are in a society. You should have reciprocity, kinship and the
frequency between them and you should have a fine tuning otherwise you cannot
survive peacefully. It mostly runs by 'give and take policy'. Honesty and
sincerity are the two tools that should always be with you. In this case you
get the stress by their problems or their problems to which you are made a
party. Any way you have to sharpen your thinking to find a solution but if you
become panicky and run away from the problem the followers leave you and that
will be another problem to you. So have clarity of mind, have a clear judgment
of whom you are allowing closure to you, own their problem and try honestly to
find a solution. In this case also if the stress becomes more the tyre will
puncture. So how to overcome this. Yes there is a solution. We will start
discussing about it now.
Suppose you run to catch a bus.
You have an aim and you are running a race. But you are running alone. There is
one more who can run with you if you surrender to him and beg. He is none other
than God. When the God is with you, your RACE transforms into GRACE. So now you
have realised the destination. What are the points to ponder there for? Your
dedication, your devotion, your concern, commitment and concentration will
certainly equip you with the necessary ability and stability to realise him.
Once he is installed in your mind and heart he will instill all that is
required for you to confront any situation without losing any cool. That comes
by ‘Samadhi Sthiti’ and actually Samadhi means some death-like situation and
not death. We mistake it to be burying a dead body also. But it is not so. The
word Samadhi literally means Sama and Dhi. Sama means equanimous and Dhi means
the buddhi or intellect. If you reach that kind of equanimous (Strong and Selfposessed) state of
intellect, it is known as Samadhi. It requires rigorous practice. That you will
attain after a long long practice. But initially if you start practicing
your emotion will start getting curtailed. That is, of the eight limbs of Samadhi (yama, niyama, asana, pranayama, pratyahara, dharana, dhyana, and samadhi) you
are practising Savikalpa Samadhi(According to Paramahansa Yogananda, in this state one lets go of the ego and becomes aware of Spirit beyond creation. The soul is then able to absorb the fire of Spirit-Wisdom that "roasts" or destroys the seeds of body-bound inclinations.) and that is enough to throw away all the dirt
of stress and strain from your mind. You will become cool, undeterred by any
external pressures and that will enable you to solve all your problems.
Swasti.
